Friday, February 27, 2009

Jenni, Baby

My favorite memory of Jenni was when she was just a little over a year old and was learning to walk. She was going from the Living room to Dad's office and her steps were short little stiff legged steps as she was just learning to balance. It was such a precious moment. What a cute little Furhead she was.

Now she is a very sweet Kindergartner who brought me a picture Tuesday of Noah's ark (from a coloring book about the Bible) that she had colored for me to put on my refrigerator. She is learning to color in the lines and using the appropriate color for things like grass, sun and sky.

We just Love, Love, Love our little Jennibug.

Lub-lubs, Baby

Grandma

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Mother

When I left today she looked terrible. Her eyes are all sunken in, she could hardly speak and she was in pain. I stayed longer than I would have had to and they came in and gave her pain medication which eased her somewhat. Jennifer called just a few minutes ago and said she had rallied some and was taking part in the conversation tonight.

This is so hard. I cried all the way home. Jan and Emilee were there when I left so I felt a little better but is is so sad to see her weaken and know she won't be with us much longer.

She has been SUCH a good Mother.

Sunday, February 22, 2009

Thoughts on Grandma / Mother to me

What a wonderful woman! I would love to have her character traits. She has always had the most lovely alto singing voice. She and my Father sang in the Tabernacle Choir for about 15 years. In fact, that is how she met my father. She was sitting behind him in church right after he got home from his mission and when he heard her beautiful voice he was hooked.

She worked hard (after her kids were all in school) at various jobs to support our family. I remember her coming home from her job as a waitress (on her feet all day) and lying on the couch in the living room with her feet up to try to get them to stop hurting. She had to walk a mile to and from work besides. She never complained. She wanted us to have the finer things in life and she wanted to decorate her living room as well. She finally got it all done with a beautiful Forrest green carpet. Turquoise and green floral couch with white silk drapes and sheers. The top of the drapes had beautiful swags that overlapped each other by about 5 inches. She bought classy end and coffee tables that lasted her close to 20 years. Her home was always clean and well kept. That room was her pride and joy.

She and Dad would go outside and do all the yard work every Wednesday evening. Their yard was the best looking yard in the block. Dad had a real good eye for landscaping and their work together after a hard days work was a real effort. Mom was a real trooper to go out and help him with her feet hurting so bad.

Mom worked the rest of her adult years until she retired at 62 (I think). Another place she worked was at a department store called Auerbach's which was like Macey's or Dillards's of today. She got several thing for my wedding on great sales. On thing she got me that I thought was especially beautiful was a cream colored tablecloth that had gorgeous embroidery with cut work in it and on the napkins. 6 years ago she gave me one of her tablecloths that was white on white sheer with matching napkins. It too was very special to me. I use it for Sunday dinners and Holidays. Otherwise I keep it put away to keep it nice.

I remember one day when I was a Junior in High School when I didn't make Pep Club she offered to take me for a ride, just her and me alone to try to assuage my sorrow. We drove all over the school boundaries to see who had made it. (you could tell because they toilet papered their houses. I was especially sorry to see that my best friend had been chosen but not me. Also the girl who was my rival for the boyfriend I foolishly gave up (and then realized what a mistake I had made) She made it as well. Mother was so considerate that way.

My mother willingly served two missions after her retirement. One was to the Hmong people that had come from Vietnam and could speak no English. She and Dad were responsible for seeing that they had all the beds and furniture they needed and then to just befriend them. That was a hard mission as they never could understand the language.

The second mission was served in the Northwestern states, mainly in the Seattle area where she got fleas that bit her and not my Dad. She suffered for months and months. Nothing she did would get rid on them and she was constantly being bitten all over her body. The doctor said she was allergic to them and there was nothing that she could do but leave that part of the country. Even after she got back to SLC she still had flees because they had gotten in the boxes she had packed to bring their stuff home in. It took several fumigation's of their apartment to finally get rid of them.

When her father was dying he was unable to take care of himself so Mother willingly took him into her home to give him the 24 hour nursing care he would need until he died. She was absolutely selfless in her effort to do the right thing by him. This she was willing to do even though she was in her late sixties and not in such good health herself. Fortunately for her, he died the day she finally got him into her apartment so she never did have to take care of him .
but I was impressed that she would have done if needed. What a wonderful woman

And now for the last three years of her life she has lived helpless in the care center being dependant on the nurses for her every need. It was a very difficult time for the first 6 months or so but she rarely cried or complained and finally adjusted and accepted her situation totally without complaint since then.

And now as she lay dying she INSISTS that we go home at night while she is sleeping rather than keeping a vigil through the night. We have told the care center that they are to call us immediately if there is any change in her status during the night but most of us live a half and hour away and wouldn't be able to get there very fast if she needed us. Fortunately, Eileen lives only a mile away and could be there in 5 minuets time.

The Hospice nurses told us today that she could live up to tow week without food and water and that the end can be very difficult. They had standing doctor's orders that she can be given morphine and atavan at any time so it will make her passing easier. It is going to be difficult to keep a vigil with just the four children so if any of you could volunteer to help out for three hour stretches occasionally we would appreciate it immensely.

{{{cyber hugs}}} to all,

Mither

Friday, February 20, 2009

Latest news on Grandmother

I have been with Mother twice today for several hours. She continues to hang on though she is sleeping a good deal of the time. She still looks good to me and is still lucid when she is awake. She looks so good that Dad says he doesn't think she is dieing and will continue to live for some time yet to come. Janice says it could be three or four more days since she is still drinking water. So we'll see.

I was so nice to see everyone who came to visit today. BTW, Michelle, your cousin Ryan's wife Angie has a blog and asked if there was a link to our blogs at Karla's. I told her I thought there was. Knowing almost nothing about what I was talking about, I told her the name of my blog and she said hers was ryanandang.blogspot.com (I think). HEY, that just turned blue on my computer. Hallelujah! I think I did something right on the computer for once. Anyway, Michelle, could you come up and put her blog on mine so we can all communicate with her? I would surely appreciate it and I would love to have more people on my blog to talk to.

Anyway, I am still thrashed from being the emotional upheaval of the last two days. I just wanted to say thank you to all you who have made an effort to come and visit Mother. It has meant so much to her and me both. I am so grateful to have such loving children and appreciate your support and prayers.

(I saw this on some one's comment on their post and thought it was SO cute.)

{{{{cyber hugs}}}}

Love to you all,

Mither

Thursday, February 19, 2009

My Sweet Mother is Dying

I can't sleep tonight even though I've only had two hours of sleep in the last 20hrs. Last night we got a call from my brother telling us that Mother had taken a turn for the worse and could we come.

When we got there she was jerking violently and incoherent.the staff told us that she didn't have very long to live, so we called family and told them to come and say there goodbyes. Well as the day wore on she rallied and the jerking slowed down and the incoherence left. We still expect she doesn't have many days left, but she could hold on for as much as three or four days. However, she has refused all medications and food as she wants to die. Janice, our daughter who is a nurse, says that under those circumstances it shouldn't be too long.

Mother strongly requested that we all go home and come back tomorrow if she's still alive. This is SO hard. We know it is her strongest wish but we hate to leave her alone to die. But she, as is so typical of her, is worried about putting us out. We wanted to stay with all our hearts but she insisted.

She is such a patient, considerate, loving person it is her natural desire for us to not stay so long and just wait for her to die. All our reassurances would not change her mind. She is bound and determined that we all go home and get our rest. So here I am at home and not able to sleep.

I hope for our sake's she doesn't die tonight but for her sake she does. She is SO tired of living and just wants to get it over with so she can go see her loved ones on the other side. We know she will be ecstatic if that happens so we can't feel sad for her. Just sad for us.

She was such a good mother. She always kept her home clean and picked up so it looked neat as a pin. She fixed good nutricious meals and always put a tablecloth on to eat meals. She wanted her children to grow up refined with good manners and we did. thee is so much more I could write about my mother but I am growing sleepy now so I'll end for now

I Love you Mother

Corilee

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Get An Attitude

1. Put your music listening device on shuffle.

2. For each question, press the next button to get your answer.

3. You must write that song name down no matter how silly it makes you look.

4. Title this post what the answer to your last question is.

5. Good luck and have fun!





IF SOMEONE SAYS 'IS THIS OKAY' YOU SAY? Consider the Liles Mormon Tab. Choir




HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOURSELF? Righteous Warriors by John Bytheway hat's


WHAT DO YOU LIKE IN A GUY/GIRL? He Was A Friend of Mine by The Byrds




HOW DO YOU FEEL TODAY? In Our Lovely Deseret




WHAT IS YOUR LIFE'S PURPOSE? Santa Clause Is Coming to Town




WHAT DO YOUR FRIENDS THINK OF YOU? More Than I Can Say (I swear that was the title) :)




WHAT DO YOUR PARENTS THINK OF YOU? The Lord's Prayer (Mo. Tab.)




WHAT DO YOU OFTEN THINK ABOUT? All Of Me by Orem High School




WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THE PERSON YOU LIKE? Paper Dream Reprise From Saturday's Warrior




WHAT IS YOUR LIFE STORY? This House We Dedicate to Thee




WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU GROW UP? As The Shadows Fall (Hymns)




WHAT DO YOU THINK WHEN YOU SEE THE PERSON YOU LIKE? Movin On by Rascal Flats




WHAT WILL YOU DANCE TO AT YOUR WEDDING?Chocolate Fudge by Manheim Steamroller




WHAT WILL THEY PLAY AT YOUR FUNERAL? The Work Moves Forward by Gordon B Hiinckley




WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST FEAR? Jesus the Very Thought of Thee ( Oh no, who would be afraid of Jesus?)




WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST SECRET? Come Away to the

Sunday School




WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR FRIENDS?Bring a Torch Jeannet Isabella (Look out friends, you're about to be torched)




WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO NAME THIS POST? Get an Attitude by John Bytheway

Monday, February 16, 2009

Help

I'm too tired to write anything tonight but can anyone tell me how to get Holly's blog on my blog. It tells me I need an invitation. How do I get an invitation?

Thanks,

Mither

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Up late AGAIN

disclaimer: mom wrote this post on January 30th at 1:48 am. Somehow it didn't get published, and while looking for another post that got lost I found this one! (I have yet to find the other one!) So enjoy mommy's silliness!!

~chelle



I am SO tired ! But I thought I'd write anyway. so here goes. Remember I'm under the influence of Ambien so don't expect much.

So my furniture came last Saturday and no one at the family said anything about liking it. Bummer. Oh well I like it even though the red is more rust than red. I'm hoping to save enough money to buy a light rug to brighten up the room a little. And them I'll get some white flowers to match the rug. My bedspread money will be gone again, Darn. Maybe that's a good thing since I want to paint the room. I'm hoping I can get Michelle and Steve to help us once they get moved. and I hope to paint it a different color. Maybe a soft greenish with just a touch of blue. I did use some of my saving to buy a white shag rug for my bedroom, It looks just great. It is small, only 5' X 7' but I love it. I may buy one like it for the living room, An 8' X 10' though. I just LOVE decorating. If anyone in the family or Flee would like help just ask.

Well, back to bed now.

Lubs and Hugs,

Mither

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

I don't know

What's the deal with my computer? It won't show Michelle's last post about breaking the window and Steve's job. I wonder how many others I missed the same way?

That's a real bummer about Joshie, Stace. I wonder if it would help if I came over and read with him?

Another bummer that I found out about yesterday is that our deductible on our homeowners policy is $500.00

Be sure to read and vote on my last blog. Please.

(Yawnnnn) Lubs and Hugs,

Mither

Sunday, February 8, 2009

Bad news warning. You may not want to read this post.

So I've had a bad time with the fibro Friday afternoon and night and then again all day on Saturday. Hummm. I am needing to be so careful lately about what I do. I hardly went out at all last week and still had trouble. Then to top it all off, Dad was told on Friday that he is going to have to take a week off every month for six months without pay. On top of that (on top of the top?) Steve and Michelle broke one of the big windows in the garage. Now we have white poster paper taped up to keep the cold air out and Steve couldn't get the blinds to go all the way down on that window so it looks even tackier than ever.

So there must be something good that I can write about..... Hummmm again.

Steve got a job. YAAAAAAAY STEVE AND MICHELLE (sorry to steal your thunder, Michelle, but you didn't mention it so I figured I would.) Michelle can fill you in on all the details in her next post.

YAAAAAY for us.... We finally got our couch delivered and I am much happier than I thought I would be with how the room looks. I really like the way we have the furniture arranged and am glad I decided not to buy a coffee table because it would make the room look too crowded. I still want to buy a rug and I have the money saved for it. Actually, its the money I have been saving for a new bedspread but I think I want the rug more and with the cut back in our pay, I'm pretty sure it will be quite a while before I can save enough for both. Hummm. I'm going to have to give it more thought to decide for sure which I want most.

So, maybe I'll put it to a vote. Tell me in your comments which you think I should get first.

I just thought of another good thing. It's possible that our house insurance would pay to get the broken window fixed. Wow, that makes me feel really good.

I've thought of two other good things. One, I really enjoyed church today. It was so nice to have Joe with me. (I sure hope I die before Joe because I can see I would make a very bad widow. I missed him so much on Sundays when he was at his student ward, I can only imagine how bad I would feel if he were gone for good.) And the second is that the fibro didn't get bad until about 7:00 tonight. I'm am SO blessed to have medication that helps the sickness and pain go away.

Well, at least I ended with some good things so maybe this post wasn't so bad to read after all.

Be sure and vote on the rug or the bedspread.

Hugs to all,

Mither

Friday, February 6, 2009

Macaubra

I had composed a nice long post about all the nice things I got for my birthday and somehow lost it. It's getting too late to do it all over again so I'll just say thanks everyone for a great day and see if Michelle can find it for me and publish it again.

Again, Thanks Jenn, Jan, Emilee, Karla and Seth, Stace, Michelle and Steve. Those who called and those who wrote blogs and commented on them.

Lubs and Hugs to all,

Mither

Thursday, February 5, 2009

Happy birthday to me, and happy funeral as well

So my birthday is actually on the 5th. I'll be 61 years old. My body feels that old and my mind with it's crazy memory (or lack thereof) remind me that I have lost something along the way. Oh well. I can watch movies more than once and be surprised all over again because I don't remember the ending.

And since my long term plan is to die at 72, I suppose I'll lose a few more of my faculties by then and be totally ready to move on to a happier sphere. However, I may be twinkled by then and the whole plan will be moot. Joe totally plans to be twinkled sometime soon, in the next 10 -20 years or so, which if that is the case I may hang on a little longer. I just really don't want to end up having to depend on my children or go into a rest home like Mother.

If I could lose 100 lbs or so it would be easier for my children to take care of me but I still wouldn't want them to have to do it. And if I were to get Alzheimer's I definitely would want to go into a rest home to end out my days. (heaven forbid but it could happen)

I also, don't want any special means to keep me alive if it means a feeding tube or artificial respiration or anything of that nature. If I can't have any quality of life I hope you will all agree to let me die with dignity. And don't let them do an autopsy or donate any of my organs.

My last wish is for you to sell the furniture and divide the proceeds equally among you unless there is something each of you want especially to remind you of us. I hope that will cause no hard feelings or schism in the family. It can happen in the best of families.... I hope it doesn't in our s.

At my funeral I would like the opening song to be P.114 "Come Unto Him," both verses. Then, I would like David, Jonathan, Michael, Adam, or Seth to be the first speaker,(work it out by drawing straws) Then I'd like one of the four girls to speak, drawing straws as well. for a rest hymn I'd like someone to sing the solo "Oh De vine Redeemer." If Jarin Stevens is around ( from the Jacob's Ranch 1st Ward) I'd like him to sing that. Then if Dad is still alive, I'd like him to speak on the Plan of Salvation and the Atonement. Then the Bishop to say a few remarks and end with the hymn "How firm a foundation," singing verses 1, 3, 4, 5, & 7.

I'd like Uncle Joe to dedicate the grave, if he is still living. If not, one of my sons. If possible, at the graveside service I'd like my children and grandchildren to sing "The Sweetheart Tree."

I didn't mean to get into all this but as it came up, it was convenient to write it all out so everyone would know.

So, Happy Day to All,

Mither

Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Bugged after all

So after having my new love seat for a week I've decided I don't like the red with the brown. I really bugs me that this happens to me. It's not that I don't like the couch.... I don't like the brown carpet and tan walls. And since I don't see Joe painting the walls or being able to pay a for a new paint job or a new carpet again, I'm stuck. Besides, I like the red couch better than anything else I saw at the store. But the room looks so drab.

I had a dream this morning that I redecorated with the brown carpet, a black couch, a white shag rug and blue highlights. It was striking in the dream and I just noticed that Michelle use those very colors in my blog background. I could still take the love seat and recliner back and buy black furniture and the rug but I still can't see Joe painting the walls.

I've decided to keep the couch, love seat and recliner and just buy a white shag rug like the one I have in my bedroom only larger. At least the room won't look so drab (and maybe we can get the room painted when I can save up the money for it.)

I guess I shouldn't complain. But it does bug me that I go to all the trouble shopping and thinking and planing and end up not liking it. I guess I should hire a decorator. My one consolation is that Melissa painted a room in her old house THREE times because she didn't like the way it turned out. I'm sorry she had to go to all that work but it comforts me to know that someone with as good a taste as she has got it wrong twice too. These are such expensive mistakes though. Luckily, I love the furniture in my bedroom and the end table and couch table I bought. Now I will just have to look forward to painting asap.

I do hope to get my bedroom painted this winter. We are going to ask Steve and Michelle to do it for us as part of their rent. I guess when you read this, Michelle, we won't have to ask you as you'll already know. We were waiting to ask until you got settled in downstairs. Hope you both will be willing to help out as it is much too hard for Dad or I to do it anymore.

The latest on my using a cane is that I still need it. Fortunately, I've only kicked it once since the last time I wrote so my little toe has had some time to recover. (I know this is riveting information but Michelle tells me to write about anything, just so long as I write)

I've had a flareup of fibromyalgia again so I have been trying to rest more lately which gets very boring. It seems to be calming down some now, though, so maybe I can start do a little more.

Ems, I'm sorry your kids are sick. Emma looked really bad last night when she was at our house. But she talked with me for a few minutes about the toy box which was a big deal for her. I hope they are better so you can go to grandma's with me Friday.

Well, I can't think of anything else to say of substance and I refuse to write about being bugged about how the microwave makes red rings around my plastic soup bowls when I cook Tomato soup in them. (Opps, I just did. Oh well, that's for you Michelle)

Lubs lubs,

Mither